Abuse can leave its mark in ways that aren’t always visible – in how you trust, speak, hold your body, or move through the world. You may still doubt whether what happened really counts. You may carry shame, fear, silence, or a sense that part of you stopped growing the day it began.

Whether it happened long ago or more recently, whether you’ve told no one or told your story many times – we hold space for you here. Carefully. Respectfully. Without force.

At The Surrey Centre, we understand that abuse recovery is not about “getting over it.”
It’s about being met – gently, fully, and with the kind of safety that wasn’t there before.

  • Shame, fear, or self-blame that won’t let go
  • A sense of emotional or physical numbness
  • Hypervigilance, anxiety, or difficulty trusting
  • Flashbacks, body memories, or unexpected triggers
  • Struggles with intimacy, closeness, or boundaries
  • Feeling disconnected from your body or sense of self
  • Silence around what happened — or doubt that it “counts”
  • Internalised beliefs that you are broken, bad, or unlovable

This work begins with safety – not in the story, but in the room.
We don’t ask for disclosure. We don’t rush the process.
We build a steady space where your experience can be honoured – gently, at your pace, and only when it feels right.

Together, we may:

  • Create grounding and regulation through the body and nervous system
  • Gently attend to shame, dissociation, or protective patterns
  • Explore how the experience shaped your identity and relationships
  • Reconnect you with a sense of choice, voice and personal boundaries
  • Use creative or symbolic tools when words are too much
  • Integrate EMDR if appropriate and wanted, with care and control always in your hands

The goal isn’t to relive what happened – it’s to release what still lives on inside you, and help you rebuild a life that feels safe, sovereign and more wholly yours.

You did not cause this. You are not to blame.
And however long it takes – you deserve to feel whole again.

This can be a place to begin.

Healing begins when we truly listen to ourselves. You are not alone – we are here to support you.

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